Glenda Mills

Hope That Doesn't Disappoint

Letting Go


“Jesus only had to die once, right? No need to have to give up anything during this Lent season. Just prepare my heart to celebrate His resurrection.” Those were my thoughts as I waited in line on Ash Wednesday. I had much to learn.

For many years, observing Lent was not a part of my Christian experience. Now a member of a church who does, I have come to see the benefit of this observance. It is a time to remember the shame and guilt Jesus suffered for us on the cross of Calvary—and remember our baptism at the same time.

After receiving the ashes upon my forehead, I sat down. I knew that many observers of Lent deny themselves of certain foods for the purpose of repentance. I bowed my head and prayed—“Father, is there anything you want me to give up this season?”

The thoughts came quickly, and had nothing to do with food. It was all about my heart.

“Let go of your rights as a wife to hold on to and cling to your husband. Let go of your right to fuss at him. Spend more time praying for him and for your relationship.”

I knew the Lord was making me aware of this blind spot of heart attitude and actions He had seen all along. Yet there was no condemnation…only the sweet convicting and convincing love and presence of the Holy Spirit of God. Praying the Lord would forgive and change me, I felt assured He had done that.

Days later I learned more about giving up “my rights”, when I shared this experience with a friend. She grabbed her dictionary, looking for the definition of the word that came to her mind. “The word render means to give up or give back.”

Jesus once spoke of rendering to God the things that are God’s. I was reminded that Dave belongs to the Lord. So do I. We were made in the image of God, male and female. In the context of marriage, my role is to stand alongside my husband and honor and respect him. His role is one of protector, and to love me as Christ loves the church.

It has been a year since that Lent encounter with the Lord. I would love to say I have total victory in this area. Ah, the painful truth is sometimes I do, sometimes I don’t. One thing has changed, however. I am more aware of times when my words or actions grieve my husband…and more quick to ask forgiveness from God and my husband. That’s the work of God’s Holy Spirit who indwells me. He is changing me, maybe not as quickly as I desire; but He has started the process that one day will be complete. I am grateful for One who doesn’t give up on me, not that I deserve it, but because of His loving mercy and grace.

The Good News of Lent and Easter is the very foundation of our faith as Christians. Without the Cross there would be no Savior. Without the sacrifice of the perfect son of God, we would be lost in our sin forever. Without the blood of Jesus, there would be no forgiveness. Without the Resurrection of Jesus from the dead, there would be no Eternal Life. Thanks be to God for His unspeakable Gift!

Do you struggle to let go and let God have His way in your life and the lives of your loved ones?

I am so thankful for God’s loving presence and promises, aren’t you?

If we confess our sin, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. (1 John 1: 9 NASB).
Being confident of this, He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus. (Phil: 1:6 NIV).

Gratefully His,

13 thoughts on “Letting Go

  1. Very good Sweetie! You said it well.


  2. Glenda, there seems to be a recurring theme throughout our sisterhood of transparency and letting go. Thank you for another look at a topic I need to remember day after day. 🙂


    • I agree. I think the Lord is calling us all to be more transparent. I appreciate how you’ve shared and it always makes me love you more. I recently read Cec Murphy’s book, Releasing the writer within you. Oh my goodness, it abolutely blessed me released me not to be afraid to be transparent. So I’m tying to learn. Thanks for stopping by. Happy Springtime….just around the corner.


  3. Powerful. My heart needed to hear this today. 🙂
    Huge hugs to you,


  4. Glenda – for years, I have asked my husband to share a daily devotional. For years, he has said “no” saying I should have my time and he should have his. And so that is what we have done – separately. But this year, our 40th year of marriage and my 40th year of asking, I decided to ask again as a Lenten experience together for 40 days. To my utter surprise and with no hesitation or defense, he said “yes.”

    I recognize that God has possibly changed me and my “way of asking.”

    We are reading Show Me The Way by Henri Nouwen – one of the most beautiful and profound Lenten devotionals I have ever read. I have read it every year for 10 years, marked it all up as I have had different experiences through the years. The amazing thing, surprising thing for me this year is that my smart husband is soaking it up. For the first time in 40 years, we are having a little time each morning just to meditate on God and His words for us.

    I am touched by your words, Glenda. Much love to you and Dave. I love that his comment was the first one – “Sweetie!”


    • Thank you Marcia for sharing. I so appreciate it, because these personal warts are not easy to share, and I appreciate you identifying with me.Oh what a blessing to hear about answered prayer with your husband. I got goose bumps. God is good. I need to check out the book you spoke of. It must be a classic if you have been so blessed by it over a ten year period. I need to read one of Henri Nowen’s books. Maybe I will get this one. Happy Spring Time.


  5. Glenda, Thank you for a wonderful reminder.


  6. Thank you for sharing. This was so encouraging and it hit home for me, as well.
    I have been giving things up for Lent for about 4 years now, but not out for the purpose of repentance, but more for remembrance…remembering what Christ gave up for me~for all of us~ on Calvary. But as you said, it’s not always about food, but about attitudes, time and activities.
    Glad I’ve found your blog!


  7. Thank you for.taking time to share, Deb. You are so right, this is a great time to remember what Jesus did for us on the cross. God bless you as we anticipate celebrating His Glorious Resurrection!
    So glad for your visit. Please stop by again.


  8. So right, Glenda – the sweet conviction of “sometimes I have victory and sometimes I don’t” . . . just what I needed this morning. Timely and worthy post, my friend!


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